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What I am about to tell you can save your child’s life. In today’s world of security and well-being of your teenager depends on the awareness and knowledge of sex.
It’s important that you, as the address of a responsible parent and loving that the problem in detail. Here are some key questions to broach the subject, to let your child know you care and want the best for him.

Recognize he may be reluctant to talk about something so personal with you if you are not accustomed to sharing feelings and intimate topics. You may feel embarrassed to raise the subject.
Before you do, make sure you can answer these questions for yourself. Also, decide what you are comfortable sharing about your personal experience and beliefs about teen sexuality and activity.

* To get started, simply ask your teen, “What kind of questions you have or what you want to know more about sex?” You will definitely attract attention.

* You may want to discard some information he did not know, something like, “Did you know that the sex partners you choose can affect your vulnerability to certain types of cancer?”

The goal here is to get your child talking-or at least willing to talk. He may tell you he knows everything he needs to know. Where do you go from there?

* Ask, “Did you know that sex does not equal love?” Notice the face for recognition, disagreement, or confusion. Follow up with, “Sex is physical while love is emotional”.

Listen to him. Notice what he said and for the words he did not speak. Note her body language, hear the underlying message, the words between the lines, tone, word choice and pace. Note his emotions, eye contact, and whether he was comfortable, or trying to hide the discomfort.

If you observe that he is not comfortable, tell him you saw and asked if he wanted to talk about what was bothering him. Reassure him that you are not here to judge.

Most importantly, let him know you’re having this talk because you love him and no matter what she is doing or thinking about doing, it is safe to talk to you. Tell him nothing can change your love for him.

And then go where it takes you. If he chooses to remain silent, let him be quiet. It’s okay to have silence. You do not need to talk. He may be processing.

Give him time and space he needs to do what he needs to do. He knows you are available when he wanted to talk.

The fact is the key. If he has unanswered questions, where he can go for accurate information? The streets, his friends, and media may not be the best place to find what he sought on the issue of sex.

* Make sure you ask your child, “Did you know that protection is not 100% guarantee of health, safety or an absolute barrier to pregnancy?” Make sure he knows the consequences of actions that may or may not take.

* Follow-with, “Do you want help or advice in obtaining protection?” That question is very important for girls who may wish to see gynecologists and may not know how to find a good one that can take care of their needs.

If your teen using the Internet, know that over 61,000 searches conducted in April on phrases dealing with teen pornography. What page is your child’s visit? Asked. Know that if you impose your will it will go elsewhere to pursue his desire. Building trust with your teen.

The purpose in having this discussion is education. I do not, in any way, shape, or form, advocate teen sex. However, statistics show that children as young as 13 engaged in sexual activity. Have been talking now.

When the hormones and peer pressure kicks in, a young man wise and educated man, who previously thought and make decisions about his actions, has a better chance of living the life she wanted from one that does not prepare for the inevitable emotions and situations that will arise in life.

Actions and results, desirable and undesirable, reflect self-esteem. To change behaviors, treat the cause not just symptoms.

What is the cost, to you and him, not knowing where you stand on teen sex?